"When a young athlete comes home from a game, the first questions that come out of a parent's mouth are the most important. What are the first three questions a parent should ask?
Did you have fun?
What do you remember about the game?
Now what are you going to work on?
What are the first three questions a parent will be tempted to ask first but should save for later?
Did you win?
How did you play?
How much did your coach play you?
These two sets of questions send very different messages to the child, and the order in which they are asked tells a lot about the people who ask them. So pay attention to what you say, Mom and Dad. Your children are listening." (p. 89)
